• Ayu Sutriasa

Before You Make New Year’s Resolutions, Do This

For a couple weeks I wanted to write a blog about New Year’s resolutions that aren’t about losing weight—and then yesterday I saw that Your Fat Friend wrote this exact thing for her column on Self. (Please check it out!)


So instead, I’m going to help you wind the year down, because in order to make new goals for ourselves, we should probably do some reflecting on the past year—and decade.


For the nihilists out there: yes, taking the time for self-reflection is absolutely worthwhile and really good for your mental health. Even if you don’t plan on making or keeping any New Year’s resolutions, it’s still important to check in with yourself—and give yourself some damn credit for everything you did this year!


Here are the journal prompts I’ll be using. I hope they help you see how strong and resilient you are, and get you excited to crush it in 2020.


1. If you could describe 2019 in one word, what would it be and why?


2. What did you do in 2019 that you’re really proud of?


3. What did you hope to accomplish in 2019 that you didn’t? Is this goal still relevant? If so, how will you work on it in 2020? If not, why?


4. How old were you at the start of the decade? If you could have a conversation with that person, what would you say to them?


5. Name 1-3 qualities you worked on cultivating in yourself this year. Note where you started at the beginning of 2019, and how you have changed over the year. Write yourself a quick thank you note for putting in the work.


6. Name some of your darker moments of 2019, and how you got yourself out of them. (If you’re still in it, write yourself a love letter.)


7. What did you put up with this year (from yourself and/or others) that you will no longer tolerate in 2020?


8. How did you prioritize self-care in 2019? What part of this do you want to bring into 2020?


Happy journaling ✨